Food for a Funeral

There is a common human need to comfort with food when someone has died. The thinking goes that the bereaved have to eat and will not feel like cooking, and that nuturing is a quality I can fully understand, but what is appropriate to make? What would be palatable? I don't want to make something like fruit salad that would get watery in a day, or tossed salad that would wilt. Dessert seems cavalier - something sweet in such a bitter sad time. It is too hot for casseroles and it would be too heavy anyway. I am trying too think of the perfect dish that would be interesting enough to cause the family to consume it, for a second or two taking their minds away from their grief. I am putting too much into this process. I know I cannot do away with their mourning by feeding them, I cannot bring solace with food. All I can do is try. That is all we can do.

Anticipation

While Carly Simon's song "Anticipation" was commercialized, I could relate to equating the song with food. Now when I hear it, I think more of longing for ketchup than love. Almost certainly that is a sign of aging.

The anticipation of a thing is really almost better than the thing itself; the longing for, the building up. My favorite time of the weekend is Friday night, or Saturday morning early before it all starts up and hurriedly rushes by, the happy freedom, the quiet joy of being at home with my sweet husband, life at my own pace. I have always been appreciative of domesticity and the joy in the simple life and that has not waned as I have gotten older.

I am anticipating a drippy Southern-style tomato sandwich on white bread for lunch that I will have to lean over the sink to eat. Although I am a born and bred Yankee, I have lived much more than half of my life in the South and truly enjoy more than a few Southern things - the aforementioned sandwich in particular. It must have mayo, and the bread has to be white (and I am a whole-grain girl through and through.) It is quintessential summer in the south.

Cuke Explosion

We have been blessed with gifts of cucumbers from several friend's gardens, and just in time for the holiday weekend. Cucumber and yogurt is a natural and most refreshing combination - I am reminded of a cold soup that Crescent Dragonwagon describes in one of her cookbooks - they cuke and the yogurt pureed with onion and a touch of salt and pepper as an antidote to 95 degress and 100 percent humidity. I think I will also make my mom's summer salad of tomates and cukes cut into chunks with red onion and sour cream, or alternately oil and fig vinnegar.

Primal

Murphy, our golden retriever, and I go for an early morning walk every weekday, usually around 5:30. Pre-dawn is a peaceful time in our neighborhood, which is lit by streetlights and our neighbor's house lights. We take a slightly different route each morning because I tend to get bored, and for Murphy to get his share of assorted sniffs. We see rabbits almost every morning, and once we came upon two tiny bunnies in the center of a lawn, and they manically hopped in different directions when we went by. The birds are stirring and sleepily beginning their morning chorus, and the insect noises have settled down.

Just now we were coming towards home at the end of our walk, two houses away. Something - there! streaked across the street. I thought it was a small dog, but it was so stelthy and swift I was not sure. Then, in the yard next to me 15 feet away were two light animal figures. I had to squint to see, thinking that the silent creatures were small deer, but no! They were coyote, two of them calmly and silently exploring the yard just feet from me. They were not oblivious of our presence but were wholly unconcerned and continued their quiet quest for food. Then, ghost-like, they were gone.

We had heard that there were coyote in our area, which is an older, established neighborhood surrounded by some remaining farmland. Cats and small dogs have disappeared, and we get notices by email that we should be watchful, but to be see these beings was shocking. The sudden confrontation with the primal world out my doorstep on it's hunt.